Reasonable Resolutions

07 Jan

             We made it to 2020. Whoa. That's pretty major. As a child of the 80's I admit I fully expected flying cars by now but hey, we do have camera phones and boy didn't that sound far fetched back then?! Entering a new year is always exciting as it gives us a chance to refresh and start over, aiming to do better, be better, save more money, lose weight, eat healthier, start exercising, etc... no pressure but we're not just entering a new year but a new DECADE(!!) Does that mean the resolutions should be grander and more meaningful? Grander? Not necesarily. More meaningful? Perhaps. 2020 lends itself to the obvious correlation with perfect vision, or more theoretically, hindsight. With this in mind and knowing how most people (myself included) forgo their resolutions by February, may I suggest we take a different approach this year, one that is perhaps a bit more sustainable? Rather than making grandiose proclamations we cannot fulfill, what if we make small changes based on our reflections on the prior year. Using our hindisght, if you will, to create a perfect vision for the year ahead. See what I did there? ;)

            The first step in developing healthy and attainable goals is to reflect on the past year and all that was good about it. Take some credit and show appreciation for the many good things that happened. What did you achieve? Did you start a new job or get better at the one you have? Did you learn a new skill, make a new friend, or adopt a new pet? Did you meet or exceed a personal goal? Did you do things that made you and the people around you happy? Did you travel somewhere you enjoyed? Finish a class or a degree? Start a new job, volunteer position, or academic program? Did you survive the year intact and ready to face the next? Sometimes we don't realize how much we have or how much good we've accomplished becasue we're so caught up in what more we need or what our next goal or hurdle is. Day to day life becomes frenetic, a series of to-do lists and schedules and compromises. It can be exhausting and not feel the least bit rewarding. 

            We're learning that to care for ourselves is not selfish, frivolous, or a luxury we cannot afford or do not deserve. Instead, we now understand that self care is essential.  Some of that understanding comes withh  age, and some, I argue, is generational. Being a few steps into my 40's (yikes- how did that happen so fast??!) and a natural giver  and carer I can say that  it has taken me some time to understand and apppreciate the value of saying "no" sometimes. That as much as I'd like to I can't do everything and be everywhere for everyone- it's just not sustainable. Instead, being more intentional with my time and efforts and taking time for myself when I need has allowed me to give more and be more to those who need me while also ensuring my personal needs are met. Generationally, though millenials often get a bad rap for being selfish and self-centered, I think there's a lot to be said for putting oneself first in certain situations. I truly believe that if you don't take care of yourself you're no good to anyone else. Believe me. Burnout is real and it happens to the best of us. Life's too short. Make time for you and everyone around you will be better for it. 

          This is where your resolutions come in. I challenge you to resolve to take time for yourself. To put yourself first and see how much more you have to give. Schedule that facial. Make time for a hike or a yoga class, or to take yourself to a movie. Invest in quality skincare; incorporate more healthy foods into your day; drink more water; figure out your ideal sleep schedule and stick to it. Most importantly: don't beat yourself up if you miss your mark. Resolutions are not meant to be achieved all at once nor all or nothing. Change happens over time, day by day, one step at a time. It takes time and intention to make habits stick- give yourself the freedom to make those changes without the pressure or fear of failure. You will stumble but instead of claiming defeat I challenge you to get back up and start again. We don't need a new year or new decade to start over-  each new day is an opportunity to be better, do better, start over, renew, and recharge.

         I'm right there with you, tackling my own goals, cheering you on, and here to help you when you stumble. Let me know how I can be a part of making 2020 great for you. This is not a sales pitch but a genuine wish to help you in any way I can to become the best version of yourself in this next year. Shoot us a message with your goals or write a letter to yourself that you tuck away and review at the end of the year. And, come 2021 we'll celebrate all the amazing and wonderful steps we've taken!

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